August 2009 – Page 2

May each of us ever been afraid. Afraid to have fail, afraid to have disturbance, loneliness, darkness, horrible sound etc. Most of us have ever been afraid such of those above in our childhood. But a few of people now on always afraid in what they can not explain. This is really not easy. If we talk to them and said, please write down what did you afraid for, and let us find out how to handle your fear. In fact most of them could not define it.

I tell you, fears can’t completely be handled unless we have another fear to replace it. How come? I give an example. If I fear to a little dog, but I have a friend of mine, a big and stronger dog, may I fear nothing to the little dog, right? Why? Just because I believe that my friend stronger dog will help me in some how the little dog act to hurt me. Anything, as long as my stronger dog is strong enough, I fear nothing to the little one.

Now, are you afraid? Do you believe that there is someone who is bigger than you fear about, even it is so hard to explain? If you don’t know someone who bigger than you fear about, I will tell you. Fear of God make you fear nothing. Do you believe that? Choose now in what you fear.

If we meet with people who always considered himself right, do not try to deny his/her opinion. Do agree in mind until he/she felt his/her truth is recognized and accepted. After that you may try to ask some questions like:

What if, doing such things be added with ….. (mention your ideas)
What if, the case of ….. executed first before of ….. (take an example from his/her previous statement)
If you are really "correct" you can say: "I also think like you before, but eventually I reach the conclusion that ….

You can add other questions appropriate to conditions you have. Pay attention to word what if. It sound more friendly rather than I Think.

After asking the question above you may start to bring your ideas in. Remember any ideas or opinions are come from different backgrounds, different experience, different maturity and different way of think.

Once in a while, there is a possibility that "person who is always right" is in correct, but how he/she talk bring to offend other people in most. Therefore we must remember that we also may be wrong.

My point is do not go in to debate, unless you’re in the debate time. If things had been debated, the pursuing goal of the parties argue only one: How to win in the debate.