Year: 2009

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What If, my partner always considered himself right.

If we meet with people who always considered himself right, do not try to deny his/her opinion. Do agree in mind until he/she felt his/her truth is recognized and accepted. After that you may try to ask some questions like:

  • What if, doing such things be added with ….. (mention your ideas)
  • What if, the case of ….. executed first before of ….. (take an example from his/her previous statement)
  • If you are really "correct" you can say: "I also think like you before, but eventually I reach the conclusion that ….

You can add other questions appropriate to conditions you have. Pay attention to word what if. It sound more friendly rather than I Think.

After asking the question above you may start to bring your ideas in. Remember any ideas or opinions are come from different backgrounds, different experience, different maturity and different way of think.

Once in a while, there is a possibility that "person who is always right" is in correct, but how he/she talk bring to offend other people in most. Therefore we must remember that we also may be wrong.

My point is do not go in to debate, unless you’re in the debate time. If things had been debated, the pursuing goal of the parties argue only one: How to win in the debate.

Be wise to talk by keeping quiet in the right time.

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Appreciate yourself

One of the weakness in our human being is forget. I believe that anyone is feel warmly to be appreciated. Many right time passed, we forget to appreciate the right people. We have learned that people like to be appreciated. Let appreciate others whom it deserved. If your friend, neighboor, spouse have something good, appreciate it.

Ok, that appreciation for other people. I think, it’s worthy to give any appreciation for our own achievement. Appreciate yourself for what you have done good. It’s not measured how big the appreciation is. Just reward it. It does not mean there must have reward in every achievement we have had. Be wise, if the reward could take you up and open the way to challenge us, reward it. If you think there should be a little more step must be achieved before rewarding, do it.

Appreciation and reward that cost nothing is what you talk to yourself. Thanks to God, reward your achievement. This is something tiny reward you can do for yours.

1. Write a card, put down your name.
2. Write a postcard, mail to your own address.
3. Ask your friend or your spouse to have a special time, such as unusual lunch, dinner, etc.

Appreciating others is good as you appreciate yourself.

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Thinking too much

For some of area in life, It is not problem of thinking too much. Philosopher are thinker. They works to think, thinking is their life. For who was not a philosopher we may have or make any trouble if we are thinking too much. We can do job too late if thinking too much, and we may lose our opportunities just because of thinking too much.

I have ever heard some one who live in his house and sometimes in a while he was locked in one of the room in that house, in the room that he could not unlock it from inside. There should be anyone to come to open it over. Many days in a week from month to year such thing happend. If he could not have any of his neighboor to come to help, he must wait until his wife come to open it for him, and before it happend he must cry out to call anyone else that could hear his hoping shout. Just to unlock the door.

He has thought to fix the door, but he think it again. How much does it cost? Where could I buy the same door as original one? How can I fix it by myself? If I fix it what about my pending jobs, etc.

He has thought one time to break the door, but he think again. How can I change the door if it really be broken? How if my foot will be blooding, If I kick it down? How if my shoulder will get ill, If I push it? etc.

End of this story, He has married got a nice baby. One day, after his wife has been allowed to go shopping after maternity of his wife …. He  worked to that room, he put a little block for stopping door to close. Unfortunately, he locked there again. He has try to run as fast as he can to stop the door, fail!

Now, this is the real story. He tried to look upon the window whether he could find someone on the outside to ask a help. None. His wife will return back in 2 hours more. One things that make his in trouble. What if his baby crying? What to do if his baby has in trouble? And that’s really what happend. His baby’s crying. Miracle? Less than 5 seconds after that, he has arrived in to his baby’s room and stand close to his baby and hold his baby on his arm. He almost unbelieved for what he has done. The door is okay, just a few of nail and screw need to be fixed out.

We need take action without thinking too much. What we afraid to happend most of them are dissapear.